Sex Therapy for Women
Because your sexuality deserves care, not silence.
If you’re searching for sex therapy, chances are you’re feeling stuck, frustrated, or even a little hopeless about your sex life. Maybe your desire has faded—or was never really there in the first place. Maybe sex feels painful, stressful, or disconnected. Or perhaps you’ve been through something traumatic that makes the thought of intimacy feel overwhelming or unsafe.
Let me tell you right now:
You are not broken. You’re not crazy. And you absolutely deserve a sex life that feels joyful, safe, and completely yours.
As a women’s sexual health therapist, I help women untangle the messy, often silent struggles around sex, desire, intimacy, and healing. Whether you’re dealing with low libido, painful sex, menopause changes, or the aftermath of trauma, sex therapy offers you a safe place to understand your body, your mind, and your relationships.
What Is Sex Therapy?
Let’s bust a myth: sex therapy doesn’t mean anything weird happens in my office. No physical exams. No demonstrations. No awkwardness. (Well… sometimes it’s awkward—but we can laugh about it.)
Sex therapy is talk therapy focused on sexual health, intimacy, and emotional well-being. It’s a space where nothing is too “out there” to discuss, including:
Low sexual desire or feeling “shut down”
Painful sex (vaginismus, vulvodynia, dyspareunia)
Difficulty with orgasm or arousal
Mismatched libidos in a relationship
Anxiety, shame, or guilt around sex
Changes in sexuality during menopause
Sexual trauma and its impact on intimacy
Feeling disconnected or numb around sex
You don’t need a diagnosis to seek sex therapy. You don’t have to be in a relationship. You don’t even have to know exactly what’s wrong. Just bring your story as it is. Messy. Uncertain. Curious. And we’ll go from there.
Why Women Seek Sex Therapy
There’s no single reason women come to sex therapy, but I hear these kinds of things all the time:
“I used to want sex, but now I don’t.”
“I love my partner, but I have no sexual desire.”
“Sex always hurts, and I avoid it.”
“I’ve never really enjoyed sex, and I don’t know why.”
“After my trauma, I can’t relax or trust anyone.”
“Menopause changed everything. I feel invisible.”
If any of this sounds familiar, know that you’re far from alone. And none of this makes you “too complicated” or “too damaged.” You deserve help and support, no matter how big or small your concerns feel.
Sex Therapy During Menopause
Let’s talk about menopause—because not enough people do.
Menopause isn’t just hot flashes and hormone swings. It can completely change how you feel about sex, your body, and intimacy. You might be experiencing:
Vaginal dryness or pain
Decreased sexual desire
Difficulty with arousal or orgasm
Changes in body image or self-esteem
Emotional shifts that affect intimacy
Menopause doesn’t mean your sexual self disappears—it means your body and needs are changing. And that’s normal. In sex therapy, we’ll talk about how menopause impacts your body, explore options for comfort and pleasure, and help you build a new, empowered relationship with your sexuality.
Pleasure doesn’t have an expiration date. It might just look different than before.
Sex Therapy After Trauma
If you’ve been through sexual trauma—or any kind of trauma—sex can feel overwhelming, scary, or even impossible. You might:
Avoid sex completely
Feel numb, frozen, or disconnected during intimacy
Struggle with guilt, shame, or self-blame
Experience flashbacks or anxiety in sexual situations
These responses are normal ways your brain and body try to protect you. They’re not signs that you’re “broken.” But they can leave you feeling isolated, hopeless, or unsure how to move forward.
Sex therapy after trauma can help you:
Rebuild trust and safety in your own body
Set boundaries that feel empowering, not restricting
Separate past trauma from present relationships
Explore new ways to experience connection and pleasure
There’s no timeline for healing after trauma. We go at your pace. You’re always in control. And you never have to talk about anything you’re not ready for.
What It’s Like Working with Me
I’m a direct, empathetic therapist who believes therapy should feel human, not clinical. I’m warm, real, and a bit witty. I won’t sit there silently nodding and asking, “How does that make you feel?” fifty times in a row.
Instead, we’ll talk like two people figuring out life. I’ll ask curious questions. I’ll help you untangle old stories that might be holding you back. And I’ll give you practical tools to help you feel more connected, comfortable, and confident in your sexual life.
I also use a mind-body approach. That means we might gently explore how your body holds tension, fear, or numbness—especially if trauma, pain, or anxiety are part of your story. Everything is talk-based, and nothing happens without your full consent.
Sex Therapy and Relationships
Sometimes the problem isn’t just you—it’s how you and your partner are connecting (or not connecting). Maybe one of you wants sex often and the other never does. Maybe you’re both avoiding sex altogether because it feels too loaded to talk about.
Through sex therapy, we can work on:
Communicating about sex without blame or shame
Understanding desire differences
Rebuilding emotional and physical closeness
Reducing resentment and pressure
You can start sex therapy alone or bring your partner in when you’re ready. Either way, the focus is on helping you build a sexual life that feels authentic and fulfilling.
You Don’t Have to Settle for “Just Okay”
We live in a world that tells women:
We’re supposed to want sex—but not too much
We should look sexy—but not talk about our needs
Pain during sex is “normal” and we should just deal with it
Our sexual selves expire after menopause
No wonder so many women feel disconnected, confused, and shut down.
But here’s what I know for sure:
You can heal.
You can reconnect with desire.
You can experience pleasure, safety, and confidence—in your own body and on your own terms.
If you’re ready to have a different kind of conversation about sex—one that’s honest, compassionate, and entirely focused on you—I’m here.
Sex therapy isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being real—and finally letting your sexual health and happiness matter.
Let’s talk.